shoutout to all the other ex-gifted & talented/honor student/straight a/senior editor/star student/99th percentile/once-creative burn-outs who have, since high school, realized they are truly miniscule fish in a giant, endless ocean, criticized themselves to the point of creative paralysis, and participated in so much self-sabotage they no longer see the point of doing anything at all because they’re just going to ruin it for themselves anyway

:)

this one’s for you

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POP QUIZ

Jack is looking at Anne, but Anne is looking at George.
Jack is married, George is not.
Is a married person looking at an unmarried person?
 
 
A) Yes. 
B) No. 
C) Cannot be determined.
 
 
(Think about it)

([ Via/ Are You A Cognitive Miser?] [This is from this month’s Scientific American — article unfortunately costs money. It’s about “dysrationalia,” which is what happens when people with nominally high IQ’s end up thinking irrationally. A phenomenon I’m sure we’ve all encountered, especially in certain corners of the blogosphere.])
Answer:

The answer is the first option. But over 80 percent of people choose the third option. Here’s the solution: the puzzle doesn’t say whether Anne is married or not, but she either is or she isn’t. If Anne is married, she’s looking at George, so the answer is “yes”; if she’s unmarried, Jack is looking at her, so the answer is still “yes.” The underlying reason why smart people get the wrong answer is (according to the article) that they simply don’t take the time to go carefully through all of the possibilities, instead taking the easiest inference. The patience required to go through all the possibilities doesn’t correlate very well with intelligence. 

Gifted Traits Commonly Misdiagnosed As Mental Health Pathology

Just a random list of common Giftedness Characteristics misdiagnosed as something else


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  • Attention Deficiency
  • High Activity Level
  • Highly Emotional
  • Frequent Mood Swings
  • Difficulty with transitions
  • Impatient
  • Impulsivity
  • Interruptive
  • Argumentative
  • Reading, writing or arithmetic difficulties
  • Refusal to do schoolwork
  • Failing to complete tasks
  • Sensitivity to clothing textures
  • Sensitivity to noise
  • Stubborn
  • Worrier
  • Poor eating habits
  • Poor sleeping habits
  • Developmental Delays
  • Atypical Sense of humour

"19 Reasons It’s Horrible To Grow Up Gifted" is a fucking terrible headline

Ah, but it’s in a classic Business Insider Template Bullshit, so it works for them.

While they threw a dart on the wall and landed on 19 then proceeded to introduce each cherry picked Reddit comment with a stock photo and an encapsulating 3 word introductory sentence while managing to put it on a 20 click ad driven slideshow summed up in a sensation headline, we’ll throw it up on Tumblr highlighting what really needs to be highlighted—Problems unique to intellectually gifted individuals.

19 Reasons It’s Horrible To Grow Up Gifted

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Wait, let’s just give quick credit to this header photo; Coloured Boy Playing Chess. It was not one of those outrageous ridiculous stereotypical stock photos of a baby Einstein with unnecessarily thick prescription glasses to emphasize genius, but of a boy playing chess. Let’s not subject this innocent little boy who has the future of the world in front of him by scaring the shit out of him as to why it’s horrible to be who he is. [(REUTERS/Gil Montano) (chess-player-young-kid.jpg)]

If you’re born gifted, life is handed to you on a silver platter, right?

Not according to several Reddit users who answered the question, “[For those] labeled as gifted children, do you think the label harmed you, or helped you?”

Most said that the “free passes” and special treatment given in school and beyond are not worth the price of having above-average IQ. In fact, any complacency they enjoyed during their early years ended up hurting them later in life.

"I often feel like a huge failure and I can’t look at my transcript without crying," writes one user. "I still consider myself extremely intelligent and capable but I can’t push myself to do the work required to make straight As. Overall it’s forced me to set an unreasonably high standard for myself."

We’ve pulled together some of the most interesting comments from the thread about why it’s horrible to grow up gifted.

From an early age, you believe it’s you vs. the world.

"You’re suddenly looking around at the world and realizing that you’re supposed to have some crazy work ethic at everything because YOU’RE gifted and THEY aren’t. More is expected of YOU than THEM because of the big giant brain that YOU were given that THEY weren’t. See a pattern there? There’s this exclusivity complex there where it’s an ‘Us vs. Them’ mentality."

(RaptarIsTheShit, Reddit)

You develop a superiority complex.

"When you’ve been told all your life that you’re the smartest person in the room, you don’t take orders from others very well, especially those who you don’t find very bright (which, sadly, is most people)."

( RaptarIsTheShit, Reddit)

And that makes you arrogant.

"Harmed me. Made me an arrogant self-righteous prick, because I was taught for years that my classmates and I were smarter than all the rest of the school. I’m still trying to undo all that."

(McHaven, Reddit)  

Inflated expectations also lead to a deep feeling of inadequacy.

"Being labeled as gifted caused my parents to have inflated expectations of me which I will never meet. I am quite happy with an undergraduate degree and career in business. My parents think I should be curing cancer while working on my 4th PhD."

( Inspector VII, Reddit)

You put too much pressure on yourself.

"School has always been the biggest trigger for my anxiety because I’m afraid of not doing well enough, and I never cut myself any slack. I also have other mental illness issues, and my preoccupation with marks expanded into believing my parents won’t love me if I don’t get the grades I think I should. The pressure comes entirely from within. They have always said as long as I try they will be proud, but I stress myself out anyway."

(Goram Doctor, Reddit )

You become way too competitive.

"Even my best friends in school were also my fiercest competitors. You had to put school completely aside if you wanted to hang out, because you’d end up hating each other otherwise."

( indifferentwindmill, Reddit )

Your parents constantly raise the bar.

"My brother and sister were praised for mediocrity, getting extra allowance or other such gifts when they got Bs and Cs. If I brought back anything but top grades I didn’t get such treatment. I always thought it was stupid and unfair."

(shh_Im_a_Moose, Reddit )

In fact, everyone expects you to be perfect.

"I’ve had a genius-level IQ my whole life, and it’s caused my parents (mother in particular) to believe that I should be able to go whole semesters without ever getting a single exam question wrong. Every time I try to explain that that isn’t how intelligence works, I get told ‘that’s just an excuse, you’re smart.’ Genius does not equal perfection."

( JBtheBadguy, Reddit )

You’re always trying to get everyone’s approval.

"I think the worst is the constant need for other people’s approval, and basing my entire self-worth on what others think. It’s led to tons of anxiety, because I can never fail at anything, or let other people down. It’s led to a bunch of self-destructive behaviors, where I’ll do things that I hate or that harm myself, just to please other people and gain their approval."

( BCSteve, Reddit )

You become terrified of failure.

"The ease at which I excelled when I was younger made it hard when I DID struggle, as I was terrified of disappointing everyone. I still suffer from severe anxiety because, frankly, I never learned to fail. And I think that’s an important lesson for people to learn."

( Cheezit624, Reddit )

Other people hate you for being smart.

"I was always an overachiever, despite being told I was extra smarties, until I got to high school and I suddenly started caring what everyone else thought. In elementary school I got perfect grades. In high school, I stopped trying so damn hard, because everyone hated the kid with the perfect grades. I remember taking a bio test once, I think that was the swing point, where the closest grade to mine was a 78%, and I got a 96%, and everyone hated me."

(Justice_Man, Reddit )

And jealousy leads to bullying.

"Precocious + bullied, that was probably the formula that made people think I needed the label, really. Adults, rather than dealing with said bullies, just reassured me I was special and that they’d be ‘bagging your groceries’ etc. Ironically I only stopped waiting tables and working in supermarkets about two years ago."

( TM3Sb, Reddit )

It’s hard to stay positive.

"I found the hardest part of the expectations was staying positive. Top of the line grades were expected. If you got the best grades, you were doing what you were supposed to do. If you got less than stellar grades, you obviously just weren’t applying yourself. It’s hard to be positive when the only reactions are neutral and negative."

(Griddleman, Reddit )

You constantly feel like you are alone.

"The idea that I was smarter than everybody meant that I only trusted myself, listened to no one and would only except advice when it made sense to me. I mostly used my gifted brain to do as little work as possible and I developed bad habits. I believed that I did not need to do well in school … because I could make up for it later."

( -sasnak-, Reddit )

You don’t develop a work ethic.

"It would of been nice if they had separated us somehow so school was actually challenging, but once everyone in my life was telling me that I was brilliant rather than just my parents, I never did any work or paid attention in classes. … If I had some work ethic in school I think my life would have turned out loads differently. But as it was, because they knew I was so bright, I never had to do anything."

( kvellarcanum, Reddit )

And you realize you can’t always fake your work ethic.

"I excelled in grade school without having to put in any effort. I would show up to finals, asking which exam we were taking that day, and get top scores. I never learned how to do homework or maintain any sort of work ethic, but I became very skilled at coasting through courses and bullshitting on essay questions (writing what I speculated the teacher wanted to hear, and not something with actual substance). Once I hit university I couldn’t get away with not doing any work anymore, so I hit a wall that I’m still trying to overcome."

(Gifos, Reddit )

You develop a false sense of security.

"I was always put in ‘gifted’ programs up until grade six. While I learned a lot in those sessions that I would not have had the privilege to otherwise learn, I feel now it lulled me into a false sense of security of my perceived capabilities, and began to coast in school. It eventually caught up to me, and I still kick myself over letting myself get complacent."

( Coastty, Reddit )

Weakness become uncomfortably apparent.

"It put a lot of expectations on myself and made the things I was (and still am) weak at a huge deal. For example, I can’t spell or punctuate correctly even now."

( ByronicHero56, Reddit )

Ultimately, you set unreasonably high standards for yourself.

"I often feel like a huge failure and I can’t look at my transcript without crying. I still consider myself extremely intelligent and capable but I can’t push myself to do the work required to make straight A’s. Overall it’s forced me to set an unreasonably high standard for myself. I have considered myself in a three-year slump (I’m a junior in high school now), but I’m starting to accept that I’m just a B student."

( Blooopimafish, Reddit )

Yes, those were a solid 19 points highlighting the curses of being labelled Gifted, with a short introductory headline to introduce each comment. 

19 seemingly random comments cherry picked and taken out of context off a currently popular Reddit thread, out of the possible 7000+ and counting, flipped into a nice little Business Insider slideshow, with 150,000+ hits (real hits?) and counting. Good job Business Insider Slideshow, for highlighting a problem and providing a solution to those problems— Oh wait, all you did was further compound the stigma that Giftedness should only be discussed in deprecating or depressing terms, by highlighting the terrible 19.

Still yes, a solid 19 points. While the topic question is heavily weighted on the consequence of being labelled Gifted in school, and not necessarily being an Intellectually gifted individual who shares characteristics with other intellectually gifted individuals, these are only 19 issues facing gifted individuals, labelled gifted or otherwise.

Because Giftedness is a Double Edged Sword, just know that there are definitely 19 Reasons It’s Amazing To Grow Up Gifted. I don’t know if it’s socially acceptable to talk about those reasons, but you’re definitely allowed to live out 20 Reasons It’s Amazing To Grow Up Gifted.

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